Shepet’s Weblog

Summer Fun!

It has been awhile since I last posted and thought that it is about time to start once again.. This summer has been crazy busy with all of our children home, but it was wonderful and full of laughter.. I finally got to meet Matthew and Kirsten and they fit in well to our family.. it is amazing to me how Rob’s kids have become my own.. thought that I’d post some pics of our fun this summer..

Frankie

2007_1230random0002.jpg  It is time for me to introduce another one of my heart daughters.. Frances..   She is 14 and full of fun and fire.. she has a very strong personality and knows who she is and runs with it.. although this is a wonderful quality it does sometimes get her into trouble .  She is confident and sure of who she is and  doesn’t let others sway on her beliefs.  We have many lauphs together and some tears as well.. I have grown to love all of my children biological or not and they have becme a big part of my life..  I feel so lucky to be starting this new year with such a wonderful family..

Grace

2007_1221random0020.jpg  I’d like to introduce the newest addition to our household.. Grace!  She is moving in with us in the middle of January.  Grace is a sixteen year old struggling with the whys and how tos of life as all sixteen year olds must do.. She is full of compassion and works hard to achieve her goals.  She will be attending the same high school that I attended and graduating next year.  I am totaly looking forward to getting to know her.  We have had many good talks and lots of lauphs since she has become my heart daughter a year and a half ago, and I look forward to watching her grow into herself.. She is turning into a confident woman, and it will be a pleasure to have her here.. I am such a lucky lady!!

Little moments

us-081.jpg  ever have one of the moments that belong just to you?? Like the first time you look into the face of your newborn child, or when you’ve accomplished your goal.. Well I’ve realized that I seem to have many of these moments.  Ones that are just mine, that couldn’t be described to anyone, and those that I share with only one or two people.. I have decided that these are the moments that I hold closest to my heart.. I have many memories, but it is still these little moments that I hold closest.  These moments may have been seen by many, but it is the moment that means the most.  The first time I saw my son, the first time my eyes met my biological mother, the first time I saw my siblings, handing my son over to my father in the airport, the first time alone with my newborn daughter, holding my grandaughter for the first time, the time my mom and I drove to Vancouver on a moments notice,  graduating from college, receiving my daycare licence,the quiet times looking at Rob and seeing not only the man but his soul..  going through labor with Jen.. these are just some of my moments.. the really special ones that will be with me always… these are the moments that define who I am .. they shape and mold me into the person I am and many moments to come will form me into who I will be.. So my advice is.. take time to notice those little moments.. you might be surprised how important they become..

Rob

2007_1028random0012.jpg  Today I’ve decided to introduce you to Rob..  He is one of the most wonderful men that I have ever met.  I am enjoying everyday that I am with him.. I met Rob in August of last year.  He has become my best friend, confidant, companion, lover, and soul mate.  In this short time he has captured every corner of my heart.  Alyssa was hesitant at first, but now he and her have bonded and Alyssa loves him.  Stephen still has some reservations, but has softened his heart enough to let Rob and his family in.. Rob is quiet and strong.  He is kind, with a great sence of humor and is a fantastic cook.. but I think mostly what I love about him is how we can talk about anything and everything at any time of the day.  We arn’t perfect and neither of us would say anything different, but we are able to talk about things and work it out.  I am truely blessed to have met this man.. my man..

Jaime

2007_10150011.jpg Let me introduce to you my youngest heart daughter..  Jaime.  Jaime has lived with us since June and I have grown to love her as I do my own.  In this short time of knowing her I have thouroughly enjoyed her sence of humor and her heart for the little guys.  She is from a family of 4 girls and she is the youngest so joining us has been an adjustment.. she is no longer the baby, but the big sister.. She has done a fantastic job with this roll and seems to become more comfortable with it every day.. She is in grade seven and has had to make all new friends at the new school but has imbraced the challenge and done extremely well.. When Jaime first moved in, I was careful not to smother her.. choose my hugs ect.. being careful to let her come to me.. (the role of a step parent is not easy) and she did .. she informed me that she needed at least 1-2 hugs from me everyday..  at times she sees me as the homework natsee, but I know that she understands as we have had the conversation that it is impossible for me to do all of my job and not have to be the bad guy sometimes.. she is a very helpfull girl and a very welcome addition to our family.. I have been so very blessed to be able to enjoy not only my own children, but others as well..  

Stephen

2007_10150009.jpg  Today I’d like to introduce my son Stephen.  Him and I have been through alot together.. probably more than most best friends..  Stephen was born when I was nineteen and in a really tough time in my life.. He was born in Amherst Nova Scotia and lived there for only a week when we travelled back to BC together.. He is one of the kindest boys that you will ever meet.. always worried about others.  Concerned about the environment and justice for all.. His heart breaks at stories where the underdog is unfairly treated.. he is full of compassion and warmth and is giving with his love and hugs.  He is fiercely protective over his family, probably more than he needs to be at times.. I haven’t made good choices when it came to raising my son and the men that I choose and unfortunatly he was the one that suffered most of all.. But how very blessed I am to be his mom!.. He often is the one that reminds us to pray at the table and to give thanks to the one that provides all..   He is my little warrior.. I could not ask for a more perfect son to have joined my family.. and I am happy to say that over the last 2 years he is turning into a real boy.. one that slams his door sometimes because he doesn’t want to clean his room ,, one that runs with his friends and doesn’t shy away from Rob’s sarcasm.. he is a wonderful person and is becoming a stinky teenager/man with a great sense of humor and caring spirit.. could I ask for more??

Caelyn

2007_10150020.jpg Well I thought that I would start introducing my little family and I have decided to start with the youngest.. Caelyn.. my Grandaughter.  If you would have told me two years ago that I woud be a grandma at 31 I would have lauphed in your face.  Funny now though.. I catch myself talking to Caelyn and refering to myself as grandma.. Caelyn is a wonderful baby.. full of life and wonder.  She is incredibly good and a treasure to have around.  She has recently started eating solid foods and enjoys everything about food!  Her and my dog Bob are the best of friends.  She pulls his hair and gives him toys and he cleans up her messes and lays often right beside her and lets her play!  It is funny to watch Caelyn growing so fast.. seems like yesterday that Robin and I were headed to Alberta to be there for when she was born.. and now she is talking up a storm and preparing to run.  Life happens so quickly.. it is like you blink and it is over.  We were so excited when she cut her first tooth.. now she has 5!  Just makes me realize that time is precious.. good days and bad.. you can never get them back.. That is why every night before I go to sleep I like to think of the best part of my day and what I was most thankful for.  Somedays it is hard to come up with something, but then can’t I be thankful for having just one more day?? 

Trust..

2007_10150055.jpgI was looking through my pictures.. and trying to find one to share.. and then I found the one of Bob .. our dog.. He is a cute little guffer with a heart of gold.  He is much like a cat in his noises (he rarely barks) and how he loves to cuddle and walk on the back of furniture.  He is like my shadow most days.  following me, trusting that I will keep him safe from my daycare children.  And then I got thinking.. Who do I trust to keep me safe?  When I was a child there was no doubt whom I trusted to keep me out of harms way. my mommie and daddy of course!   As an adult I think that we as humans have learned to trust nobody.  Through hurts, dissapointment, learning from others we trust ourselves.  I have a belief that God will keep me safe according to his plan, but I don’t believe it was Gods plan for us to rely solely on ourselves.  I think that God puts people in our life at exactly the right time to help us along.   (as I am in Bob’s life) I have had some fantastic people come into my life that I rarely talk to now.  People that I have relied on and trusted to help me through some tough situations.  Just because I don’t talk to them much now, that doesn’t mean that I like them any less now, but I think that for what ever reason they were in my life to help me through my next obstical and I to help them through theirs.  For now I am the one looking before I cross the road with my children ..  I am the one that is taking care of others.. and God gives me the ability.  So I guess if I were to be very honest.. who do I trust.. the answer would have to be nobody but God.. For ultimatly He is behind everything.